I have partaken of much hand-wringing over the level of unnecessary violence our children are exposed to on television. It is my constant source of outrage that the On-Demand menu for our cable company runs adult movie previews 24/7 in the corner of the screen. And although Husband (who works for said company in customer service) swears that these previews are carefully screened for offensive language during daytime hours, I am here to tell you that they are certainly not that carefully screened for offensive content during daytime hours. Dialogue I have heard recently, at 10am as I am looking for an episode of Little Bear for Son, has included:
“And where is your wife now?”
“I killed her.” [from some movie with Anthony Hopkins in it]
I realize this post doesn’t look like it’s going in the direction of a defense of TV, but I’m getting there. I actually think there are some excellent reasons to let little kids watch carefully chosen programming. The channel Noggin, for example, gets my vote any time of day for its lack of commercials, diverse characters, and highly creative ideas. (Except for that horror-on-wheels show called Lazy Town, which I viscerally hate for reasons I can’t even articulate because it’s just so visceral.)
Here, in no particular order, are some of the benefits I think selective TV-watching confers:
Cultural literacy. Now, some people might argue that knowing who Sponge Bob Square Pants is doesn’t really help you much in the world, and that this is a waste of perfectly good brain cells. Actually, I agree. But last week at dinner, Son asked me if I knew who Moby Dick was. MOBY DICK! “Yes,” I said. “Where did you hear about Moby Dick?” “On Little Bill,” he said serenely (he loves this show). “And who is Moby Dick?” I asked him? “A giant whale,” he responded. At the age of nearly-four, he did not then launch into an extended discussion of the existential battle of wills between Ahab and the great white whale. In fact, he told me with certainty that Moby Dick is blue. Nonetheless, the fact that he already knows the name and has the association with a whale gives me hope that he might even read the book someday. Maybe I’m deluding myself. But maybe not.
Awareness of the existence of other languages. Son was singing the Vamanos song from Dora the Explorer that same evening while dancing around the family room. I asked him what “vamanos” meant. “Everybody let’s go,” he promptly responded. I asked him if he could count in Spanish. “uno, dos, tres, cinco, say-tay, quarto, och-to, seis, nine, diez” he responded. Okay, it leaves a little something to be desired. But when our Hungarian friends were over a few weeks ago, he whispered to me, “They aren’t speaking English. But are they speaking Spanish?” His voice clearly registered doubt. So at least he’s got the idea that different people speak different languages, and that there might even be more of those languages than just the ones he knows and Dora knows.
Expanded vocabulary. “What does inspire mean?” Son had asked me that morning. I explained it meant that you got so excited about something that you just had to do it yourself, and then I asked him where he’d heard the word. “The boy chef said it to the girl chef in Ratatouille. ‘You inspire me.’” “Well,” I said, “that means the girl chef is so good at cooking that it makes the boy chef very excited to try it himself.” And that night, when I asked Son if he could remember what inspire meant, he actually explained it back to me. He has since, more than once, tried to work the word inspire into a sentence.
Let me state for the record that I’m not taking creative liberties with the time scale here. We really had all these conversations in one day. Lest you become afraid that I am one of those horribly pushy mamas who wants to make her kids precociously thinky, keep in mind that there must have been TV as a catalyst for each of these moments—which actually slants the balance in favor of TV over thinky conversations. (What can I say? It was day 10 of vacation with no daycare, and day 2 of being unable to leave the house due to the weather.)
There are lots of other things kids learn from TV: the fun of cooking (even for boys!), manners, problem-solving skills, story-telling, honesty, and the fact that animals can talk when we’re not looking. Sure, “punching bad guys” might also be one of those things. But you don’t have to let them watch Power Rangers. And you don’t have to let them watch the 4 hours per day that the AAP says most American kids average.
But I’ve decided you (read: I) also don’t have to feel guilty about the 30 minutes a day that enables you (me) to shower and get dressed without having physically to remove the clinging life-form from your (my) ankles, or the 40 minutes that lets you (me) make dinner while checking email and paying bills. (Yes, I’m obsessively a multi-tasker.)
In fact, I could go on and on about the benefits to Mommy of kid TV time, the primary one of which is the high dose of sanity that comes with judicious usage of the Giant Screen of Distraction and Peace. But that wouldn’t really be fair to list as a benefit to kids. Unless not being throttled by a Mommy pushed over the edge of reason by the thirty-third poking fight of the day counts as a benefit to kids.
Of course, we should choose our kids’ programming wisely, and we should know what they’re watching, and we should limit how much they watch to ensure they get plenty of exercise, do art projects, read books, and generally stimulate their brains. But as long as we’re also trying to get thinky with them a few times a day, we shouldn’t beat ourselves up about taking advantage of what our mothers called “the boob tube.” The kids might actually learn something. And being a mommy is hard enough as it is. Guilt-free parenting should be the New Year’s Resolution of all mommies in 2008. At least, as long as Pinky Dinky Doo captures the kids’ attention.
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Want more info on actual studies on TV and children? Check out the following, all of which contain references to the medical studies on whose conclusions the news stories are based:
CNN article with lots of interesting statistics about TV viewing habits of American children, without much in the way of conclusions about what the data mean.
CBC article on a study that found an increased risk of attention problems in children who watched violent shows as pre-schoolers. Particularly interesting: the assessment that “violent” shows include even cartoons some parents assume are appropriate for young children because the violence is not bloody or graphic. Think Loony Tunes or Rugrats. Though my two cents says that any of us who try to avoid violent images for our kids have already figured out that being squashed by an anvil is violent and not something we want as part of the Toddler vs. Preschooler repertoire.
Fox story on a study linking too much TV time to difficulty in managing juvenile diabetes.
Reuters story on links between TV watching, childhood obesity, and increased blood pressure.
WebMD article based on a study published in Pediatrics that links increase in TV time to decrease in school-aged kids’ grades.
Slate article summarizing a study that found no correlation between increased TV viewing and reduction in school performance. (Yes, a study directly contradicting the findings of the Pediatrics study published above…see how much fun doing research to figure out how to be a good mama can be?!)




7 comments:
I have to say that at least once a day I think, "Boy, I am a rotten mommy. My kids have been parked in front of the TV for waaayyy too long today." And then I rationalize that it was a crazy busy day where Mommy had work deadlines or taxes deadlines or 72 loads of laundry that HAD to be done or where everyone whined unceasingly for 4 hours until Mommy put on Sesame Street. TV kept me (somewhat) sane, the children safe and happy, and our household running more smoothly. These rationalizations are all true, and I am VERY careful about what my kids watch: Sesame Street, Jack's Big Music Show, Little Einsteins, Miss Spider, Curious George, Backyardigans, Between the Lions, Dora, and Zooboomafoo is pretty much the extent of our repetoire. We don't watch any channels with commercials. "Bad" shows (Caillou--I can't stand the whining, LazyTown--yes, really stupid, Teletubbies--idiotic, etc.) are all banned and my kids know it. The guilt is, of course, brought on by the zillion articles, comments, etc. I've seen/heard since having children about how my kids will be the village idiots if I turn on the TV. However, moments like the following seem to support the idea that I am not, actually, killing my children by letting them watch...
- The speech delayed 2 year old spontaneously breaks into song..."ABCDEFGHLQRSTUVWXYZsingwithMEEEEEE!" I have not taught her the alphabet song. Elmo did.
- Same child counts to 10 ON HER OWN, again without prompting.
- Other twin begins to mimic her sister, counting together often.
- ABC song comes on Sesame St one day, and as they pause between letters, both twins fill in the blank.
- Both girls are learning their colors--sometimes with my help, sometimes with TV's help.
- Big Sis has learned to count to 10 in Spanish and learned a dozen other words from Dora. She has also quoted me a variety of interesting animal facts from watching Diego.
- Big Sis has also told me all about different instruments and different music from Jack's Big Music Show
- We've talked all about maps (and treasure), and detectives, and mermaids, and snow, and races and who knows what else thanks to Backyardigans.
- In the car recently I had the classical station playing. Beethoven comes on, and Big Sis says, "I know that song! I heard it on Little Einsteins."
Yes, there is really bad TV out there. Yes, there are many, many shows completely inappropriate for children (Shrek, for example, is NOT a children's movie, regardless of the fact that it's animated!) But there is also great, educational TV out there. I don't think it's fair to say that TV is bad. I think it IS fair to say that, as parents, it is our responsibility to make sure that what our children watch is good. How can it be bad if they learn fabulous, interesting things that I wouldn't be able to teach them? So for my sanity and theirs, we'll keep watching.
We haven't let Nate watch tv yet. He occasionally will see a football game on screen, but we have avoided him seeing any tv. I still go back and forth about what we will do once he turns 2 (6 weeks from now, holy cow!). Given that I only have him 3 days a week (i work the other 4), I tend to not want him to watch tv when i can be interacting with him. But I often wonder whether he could be learnng cool things via tv as you mentioned. He definitely will be allowed some tv at 3...the jury is still out for us btwn 2-3. It's a hard decision.
Angie,
I found it so much easier to keep Son away from TV than Daughter. He watched nothing till about 18mos -- well, probably was in the room during some random sporting events, but no real kids programs...once he was talking, he was also more interested in TV. By 2, he definitely had shows he liked...and we had Daughter, so the sanity-saving-factor kicked in. I was still really careful about the amount of time he watched, and that will continue. But it's certainly the case that she is much more tv-savvy (though she calls it "PB") than he was at her age. -sigh- It's so hard to do right by #2 when #1 has already reached milestones. I struggle with this every day.
I'm still crazy... but I will weigh in tomorrow!
Whenever things settle down a bit for you, Mrs. F, I'd love to know your take on all this. No rush.
It's just like everything else when it comes to parenting I think - with supervision and in moderation it's probably fine. Graham is only 2 so I just worry about it becoming a habit. Neither my husband or I really watch tv at all though so I guess I shouldn't worry because he is growing up in a house where truly the tv is rarely on at all. Also, for me it;s not so much the content I worry about as the ads and the push to make kids consumers so young.
Yes, I know exactly what you mean, Don Mills Diva, about the ads. The only channel I let the kids watch is Noggin, which has no ads. Everything else they watch is either on a DVD or from the On-Demand menu, so they don't get the commercials. I, too, worry about the habit. My husband is a big sports fan, and he's one who likes to have the noise in the background, so if it were up to him, he'd have the TV on constantly. I have to work hard to ensure that it gets turned off. But if it's any consolation, I've seen my kids opt to turn away from it to do something else, too, so I think if used in moderation, it's reasonably easy to avoid the addiction. Tonight, for example, Son asked to watch TV after dinner, but when I suggested he pull out the blocks instead and build something while Husband and I finished eating, he said "okay" -- and the tv never went on at all. At nearly 2, daughter is much more likely to be glued to the screen in that robot-fascination way, as was Son at her age. I think they grow out of that supefication if they aren't left in front of it for ages at a time, though.
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