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Thursday, May 29, 2008

To the large, goateed, shaven headed, tatooed man at my gym

who spent half an hour
doing volleyball serves
with a beach ball in the swimming pool
so that your son and my son
could chase after the ball,
tumbling over each other like puppies,
and laughing as they splashed:

Thank You.

I noticed how you very carefully,
without saying anything at all,
kept track of who had reached the ball first
and made sure to swat the ball next in a direction
the other one would be most likely to reach quickest.
Nobody had to remind them to share
because you ensured that they would pretty much take turns
coming up the winner.

I noticed how you let them work it out
when they began a squabble,
and I noticed how you matter-of-factly
thought to make sure my son
felt as much a part of the game as your son,
even while keeping a close hand on your toddler
in a life vest.

I don't know your name, but I do know this:
any child would be lucky to have
such a father,
and your sons are fortunate indeed
to have such a man for a role model.


The woman in the brown bathing suit
who enjoyed a lovely playtime with her own toddler
in the kiddie end of the pool
while her older son had a ball.


Nicole (SAHM Ramblings) said...

It's awesome to find people like this who know those little things like "helping" the kids take turns. It's doubly awesome that you noticed it and acknowledged it.

mommytherobot.blogspot.com said...

awwwwwww ... thats very sweet! so did you get a new suit? we want to see!

Aimeepalooza said...

Isn't it funny too, how much doesn't depend on a person's looks? You and I might think him scary but obviously he's a really good person. How very nice of him!

MIQuilter said...

That's awesome! Although why you obviously didn't get the green and white seersucker suit is beyond me.

LceeL said...

mommytherobot has it right. We want to SEEEEEE.

lattemommy said...

I love, love, love people like that. You know, the people who remind you that not all other people on the planet are narcissistic asshats. Sadly, I need to be reminded of that on a regular basis.

Oh, and I want to know about the suit too...

Auds at Barking Mad said...

That's really awesome...on his part for his interaction and on yours for the beautiful acknowledgement.

SherE1 said...

I LOVE it when people are awesome like that! Doesn't it make your whole day? What a great father, indeed!

Mr Lady said...

I love people.

Chesapeake Bay Woman said...

Now, when you say "large," are you talking about girth or height or both? Perhaps his muscles are large?

Per chance was he wearing a wedding ring? Inquring minds want to know.

A good, decent man is not easy to come by.

He sounds like a dream, regardless of anything else.

zoeyjane said...

aw. sometimes a person will come along and redeem a whole bunch of asshats. i'm happy your son got to have such a good time while you got to treat the lil one to one, too.

now, make with the suit.

Tara R. said...

There are good guys left in the world. Thanks for sharing this heartwarming story.

supertiff said...

i can't even tell you how refreshing it is to read about your day at the pool.

i'm not saying anything bad about anyone, because i'm as guilty as can be, but it seems like a lot of the time we all come home and blog about the annoying things that happened in our lives...so, this was nice.

(of course, one could argue that we blog about the annoying things because we're more likely to run into douchebags in our everyday lives than we are likely to run into a guy that will play--a fair game of--ball with someone else's kids.)

MommyTime said...

For all the curious: I DID get a new suit. Tomorrow's post is already written, but tune in Saturday for photos.

MultiplesMommy said...

How lovely! Doesn't it just brighten your whole day when you run into someone NICE who doesn't even know you, but who acts with basic human kindness towards you and your kids?? I find it rare in a world where so many are suspicious of strangers and distrustful of those who look "different" from themselves. Nice job, Lady Brown Suit.

charrette said...

Fabulous post!
So well written, keenly observant.
I've been very grateful for strangers like that who showed kindness to me or my children. Hopefully your open letter will reach them all.

I met you over at Twas Brillig this morning, and am very glad to have stumbled by.

Kimmylyn said...

I love hearing good hearted people stories.. :)

Kori said...

I just followed a link from BusyDad over to here; I won't be particpating in the whole prm dealy, BUT: I loved this. I love and need daily the reminder that there ARE men out there who are great dads. And your writing is great!

mommypie said...

Aw, I love this. There are so many good, decent people out there.

Can't wait to see the suit -- I just bought mine online -- hasn't arrived yet, but I was thinkin' of posting a pic at least ... before I try it on and get super depressed.


foolery said...

This was so nice.

And I got a chance to BE that guy this weekend, at a park, while my 5- and 7-year-old and their cousins did their own thing. It took no effort at all on my part to swing a little girl whose mama was nursing her infant, and it made her day and mine. Children bring out our inner goodness sometimes.

Nicest of all that you saluted him. :)


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